Day 5 – 10/04/2017 – feeling connected and open, relating, intuition

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3 questions to transform your life…or so they say. I decided to check it out.

What surprised me today?

  • I watched a conference about the new economy of knowledge, biomimetism and the blue economy with my son who is about to turn 10 and I was surprised that he was interested and asked a lot of questions. Who said that kids only cared about video games and social media? ūüôā
  • I was in the middle of some work of mine when suddendly I had an urge to check the time in relation to my son’s guitar lesson…which was about to start in a few minutes while my son was still outside playing. I felt like it was my intuition speaking to thank you Intuition!
  • My wife came home early today, that was a nice surprise!
  • I discovered a very interesting conference about the knowledge economy with Idriss Aberkane. Warning it’s in French, there are some other videos of Idriss in English available on Youtube if you’re interested.
  • I started my day dropping my kids off to school and chatting with several parents. I had a nice feeling of being included, connected and even being the center of attention which is unusual to me and which usually makes feel uncomfortable but not this time. I welcomed this nice surprise and this nice change…wondering if it has anything to do with this 90 day happiness experience.

What touched my heart today?

  • My daugther hugged me to thank me for listening to her: she did not want to read a Tintin book to practise her French and instead of forcing her, I just said “ok, let’s stop.” Big change for me, usually I insist and force things – my wife says I’m stubborn and wives are always right :-).
  • My daughter had a swimming gala which I was fortunate to attend. When she finished, I gave her a great high five. I could see she was proud of herself, that felt great!
  • One of my clients recommended to another person for my services. I thought that was very nice and I took it as a positive acknowledgement which felt great.
  • Kissing my kids and my wife with full presence at the start of the day.

 

What inspired me?

  • A deep sense of presence and openness that I felt in the morning.
  • Teaching things to my kids and being listened to.

 

It feels like this experience has a very positive effect so far which is very surprising because it happened in such a short time. I feel more connected with myself…and therefore feel more connected with others…in other words more connected to life. Let’s see how things evolve with time.

 

Now to you:

  • what surprised you today?
  • what touched your heart?
  • what inspired you today?

Feel free to share in the comments below

Technic #2 to connect to yourself and your purpose

Sit in silence and see what happens…

night garden

 

During the day or at night, preferably in nature if you have a garden or a park close by, spend 3 minutes or more in silence.

  • Just sit there,
  • Listen to the sounds,
  • Watch what you see,
  • Feel what you feel,
  • Accept that you don’t know what is going to happen,
  • Let go and relax,
  • Focus on your body senses so that your rambling mind recedes in the back,
  • Open up and welcome the present moment.

The trick is to spend this time with no expectation, no intention just for the pleasure of being present without having anything to do nor to think about.

After a little while, this technic is supposed to create space within so you can connect to your deeper self and let your deepest desires, your purpose, your life mission emerge from within.

Technic #1 for a new pair of eyes

What you focus on, grows…

Marcel Proust quote

 

Spend 10 minutes a night with your little notebook. Sit down with the book and reflect on your day going backwards:

  • I just had dinner
  • I was driving home
  • Before that I had a meeting with Mrs. X
  • Rewind your day as if it was a videotape until you reach the morning when you got out of bed in the morning.

Do this process three times

  1. the first time you are going to ask yourself: what surprised me today? As soon as you find anything that answers that question, anything at all, you write it down briefly in your little book.
  2. Then you start your review again from the back asking yourself: what touched my heart today? As soon as you find anything that answers that question you write it down.
  3. Then you start your review again and ask this time: what inspired me today? As soon as you find something that answers that question you write it down.

Then you are done for the day.

Suggestion: look back at your day as if you were a novelist, a journalist or even poet. You need to look for the stories.

Source: “the art of living every minute of your life” by M.S. Rachel Naomi Remen M.D.

Why “Shared Happiness”? How it all started?

The intention and purpose of this blog…

When I look on paper, I have everything to be happy: a loving wife, two amazing kids, a fulfilling job, a comfortable material life, a good health¬†and yet deep down inside I am not happy. I read many personal development books, I worked on myself for the past 7 years,¬†it helped on many levels and yet¬†if I’m honest with myself I know¬†I’m not happy.

I keep waking up¬†most¬†mornings with a big ball of anxiety in the stomach and in the shoulders which sets the tone for the day. My morning meditation helps a little bit but again it does not shift the baseline which is set in anxiety. I may occasionally have a good day and yet¬†it feels like deep inside I’m missing out on something.

I came across a video a few¬†weeks¬†ago about “the art of living every minute of your life” which got me thinking because it offers a¬†simple technic¬†which promise is to transform your life. The technic is easy and requires¬†only 10 minutes per day¬†so why not test it out?

In a few words, the technic is about reviewing your day just before going to bed and ask yourself 3 questions:

  • what surprised you today?
  • what touched your heart today?
  • what inspired you today?

You then write your answers in your notebook. That’s it!

As I started this process, I came over two other simple technics which I added to the mix.

  • I added another question to that bedtime review: what are 3 things that I am proud of about myself? It can be anything: accomplishing some of your goals or just holding the door to someone.
  • I spend 3 minutes in silence in nature. I usually do this process in my garden at night after or before answering the questions in my notebook.

Now my plan is to test this process for 90 days at first and see the impact it has on my life. It is high time to move into action, walk the talk!

Why this blog? Well as I’m starting this new journey, I feel compelled to share the initial¬†results which are very positive (I started on April, 6th 2017 – more than a week ago).¬†¬†More importantly it is for¬†me a way to share something authentic about myself and who knows maybe it will inspire some to¬†start their own happiness process, to share their results or share their¬†other “happiness” technics that worked for them.

Let’s share happiness!

Patrick

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